Perfectly Stable is in need - please help if you can

Perfectly Stable provides under-privileged children with a safe place to visit and experience the beauty and healing power of a positive relationship with animals. The organization is built upon the belief that children need a special place that:

• Fosters responsibility, independence, and accountability - the building blocks of progressive development.
• Provides a level playing field for all, regardless of station, situation, or challenge
• Teaches them that dreams can be achieved.

Yesterday, a fire in Bradford burned down the facility that Perfectly Stable, leaving 30 horses without food and shelter, and Perfectly Stable without the facilities and equipment necessary to fulfill its mission. 

Julie Parsons, B.A., B.Sc., founder of Perfectly Stable, is hoping to raise $20,000 to replace the contents of the barn, and to rebuild it. If you want to donate (money or equipment), please contact Julie at http://www.perfectlystablefarms.ca.

Take a deep breath and just relax!

Winter is a time to work through schooling issues, to develop balance, hone flatwork skills, and prep for the upcoming show season. This year, it has also been a season of working through frustrations and behaviours (largely associated with a long winter, too much ice, restrictions about riding in the sand ring, and poor turnout). It's easy to get frustrated, to over-think, and to worry about what's happening and why. Not surprisingly, when I stress about a situation, Chaos' behaviour magnifies it one hundredfold.

So we have been working on relaxing. Whether it's an issue in the cross ties, a refusal to stand still at the mounting block, a general friskiness due to restricted turnout, a piece of equipment that "wasn't there the last time", or a small drift of snow that has blown in through a crack in the east end of the arena wall (something Chaos feels is so evil that it has to be approached from the left, the right, and the centre with incredible trepidation, much snorting, balking and, if possible, flight), I have found that a deep, heavy and loud sigh, followed by audible chewing on my part, can help us both refocus, and relax.


The minute his body tells me something is not quite right, I stop what I'm doing. I take a heavy, deep and loud sigh, and I chew (think cows chewing their cud). If Chaos doesn't relax, I repeat the process until I get hear a heavy sigh from him, followed by chewing. His reaction is followed by a release of tension, his head comes down, his eyes soften. No frustration. No argument. Just a peaceful way to refocus him, to regain his attention. It also relaxes me, refocuses my energies, and helps me to problem solve for a positive outcome, rather than a reactive one.

Relaxing is a win-win. It eases tension and stress, it reassures, it helps us succeed in the task at hand. It builds trust and confidence. It centers us both, and enhances our ability to communicate.

A deep breath. It's the difference between this...

... and this

So the next time you ride, or you find yourself face to face with an evil snowdrift, take a deep breath and relax. Your horse will thank you, and your body will too.